Thing have been kind of a whirlwind again. April is flying by and I'm off to Ireland soon. My eyes are improving each day, the weather here is well... up and down. We've had snow/rain/hail/sun in a 24-hour period. Sheesh.
I can blog about this now but at the time a few weeks ago I was so emotionally overwhelmed and drained. After coming off several long stretches for the past few months of working, I had just come from this amazing long 4-day weekend in Dallas: catching up with everyone, having these great conversations, seeing old and new places.
And then I come back to Tacoma, where I proceed to work an extra long week, my mother and I have another disagreement because as usual she jumped to the wrong conclusion and then my grandmother dies.
Since I'm the only full-time woman on the desk, there is a lot of stuff said back and forth that really most other departments wouldn't get away with. But's is still sort of a 'good ol'boys' network back there and I can roll with the punches because what is said is in good fun and no one is personally attacked.
Well this didn't happen to me, it happened to one of our two part-time female writers (who happened to be helping us that night on the desk and doing some agate for another co-worker).
It was a heated comment during the Final Four semis during the Kansas game (the guy is a Kansas alum.) He misunderstood that she was agreeing with him that the tv announcers were stupid and just out of nowhere yells,"You F---ing Bitch!" and then proceeds to throw trash at her.
Needless to say, we were all SHOCKED! He has been one of the nicest people to me since I moved here (he's in his late 50s) and the rest of the desk was stunned.
Another male colleague reported it. Some of the people who were not there that night are not taking it as seriously as they should. I have never been so humiliated for another woman in my life as well as sad. The offender was punished. He has apologized to both of us women who were there. I can forgive him, but told him that if it ever happened again.... The person who was the victim in all of this is doing well. She's keeping a low profile, but the sad thing is that it has only poisoned her thoughts on this place even more so. Frankly, I don't blame her.
For awhile there (after this happened) I was having doubts as to whether I can stick this job out. Up until that moment, I was liking my job, even getting to laugh at some of my (grumpy) co-workers. Everyone seemed to like my work and I have so many ideas and things I want to accomplish here.
I need this vacation and the time away from the desk to just sort of let things go by. Hopefully it will have gotten better when I get back.
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You turned him in. Everyone in the office knows it.
Lying isn't very ladylike.
Wow... You have no clue what you are talking about. Get your facts straight before you start accusing people of things you know nothing of.
But thanks for reading my blog. I'm glad my life interests you this much. Have a nice day!
Although I was off that day, I know precisely who reported the incident -- which was indefensible, by the way -- and when. So kindly allow me to put this to rest:
It wasn't Liz.
Lying isn't very man-like, either. Particularly when done anonymously.
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